Is There a Right Time?
There will always be something coming up that will make you think that now is not a good time to go on a sober journey. Birthdays, Christmas, Holidays, Parties, Nights Out, they are all seemingly “in the way” of you getting started. The reality is that although we can’t see it at the time, it’s actually the alcohol that is in the way of us experiencing those things truly and authentically. With the right tools it’s much easier to go sober than you think. Every day you wake is the first day of the rest of your life, how are you going to live yours?
I Only Want To Cut Down
I had this conversation with myself for years before I stopped drinking completely. The truth was I didn’t really want to give up drinking completely. I loved the good times. I wanted the idyllic relationship with alcohol that so many people around me had. Have you cut down many times before but ended up back where you are now with your drinking? That was me too. The truth is the only way to get a different result is to do something different.
What Will People Think?
One of the biggest fears about quitting alcohol is that we believe that everyone else will think we have “a problem” or it will be just “too difficult”. I’ve lost count of the amount of people who have asked me probing questions when I have told them I no longer drink. It’s sad but true that alcohol is so socially acceptable in today’s modern world that living sober still raises eyebrows. Things are changing, slowly. In the meantime let me say this to you… Sober is most certainly the new cool.
What Can I Expect?
When to start (or stop as in this case!) is for you to decide. The six week accountability programme is the most successful plan I have to date and everyone who has been through it with me still doesn’t drink alcohol to this day! It can be so daunting when we know we need a change but don’t know where to start. Start with small steps, take advantage of a free 30 minute one to one call with me and I can tell you all about it, then we can decide if it’s the right path for you too.
Is It Time To Make A Change?
There is no time like the present. Once you decide you want to change your drinking why not take a proper break and look at it as a long-term commitment otherwise you will just painfully abstain for a few weeks or months and possibly start drinking again.
Think of some of the things you would really love to be able to do as inspiration for changing your life. My dream was to go around the world and here I am in Sydney Harbour in Australia.
What Is Sober Coaching?
You will develop a clear goal
Together we will develop your own personal goals and what you are looking to achieve by living alcohol free
You have all the resources you need to achieve your goal
You will have access to me and to the resources to help you keep on track and be accountable
You will have a clear measurement of success
Each step of the way you will be able to see your progress which will help you to keep moving forward. Your sober clock will grow and that’s something to be celebrated.
You will have me by your side
It’s important to have someone with you that really understands what it’s like to go sober in an alcohol soaked world. When you encounter difficulties I will guide you on how to put your best foot forward
You will get clear on your bigger life goals
When alcohol has been in the way for so long we can’t see how limiting it is. It’s therefore incredible when it’s gone as we start to see life through a different lens. I can help you to get clear on your life goals beyond alcohol.
I found the Sober Angel 6-week course to be a realistic time frame for the programme, not too far into the future it was daunting, but long enough to get a solid period of sobriety in the bank and also importantly I was confident that support from Joanne would be ongoing and beyond the 6 weeks if I needed it.
Daily emails arriving early in the morning counting sober days were great. When I logged in my email first thing in the morning I got a burst of motivation and likewise a second email coming through in the afternoon, just at the right time of day when I needed it most helped to stay on track, the contents also gave me food for thought with optional tasks I could dip into or not.
I previously had support from Facebook groups and although I have found them helpful in the past, after a while they can become a little impersonal for me. What I found was unique from the Sober Angel was the weekly Skype calls with Joanne which gave me a “real” person to confide in and was a refreshing change from another name and pic on Facebook. To have actual conversations with someone who had faced similar issues as
Accountability really worked for me, there were times where I wanted to give up but the awkward morning after where I would have to admit to someone, who I felt was really rooting for me, gave me another reason to not give up, I didn’t want to let Joanne down.
I would recommend this programme to others, particularly if giving sobriety a go for the first time as Joanne has so much knowledge to pass on from being there herself. But whatever stage people are at one of the most important messages I gained from the 6 weeks is that sobriety doesn’t have to be a hardship or battle of willpower, this was a new approach for me which has worked this time as my previous attempts at sobriety were based on willpower alone and I don’t think it’s possible to sustain this for the long term.